This week I have focused on owning my now. Or in non Thea terms…taking responsibility for the things that I can control in my life as well as how I react to the unexpected things that pop up. Which, if we are all being honest seems to happen quite often. I have learned that it is okay to not just hero up and to actually acknowledge disappointment, stress, falling short. It is okay to feel crappy about things and sometimes it may help you get over it faster but by choosing to dwell in misery or going into catastrophizing mode for too long may hide the fact that obstacles are often opportunities disguised.
So how do we own our now?
We need to remain open to the lessons and experiences we are being faced with. Open and honest I should add. This week I was open to all the obstacles that popped up but I was not initially honest with myself and why these “unexpected” things were happening. It took a while and some serious self talk but I have convinced myself that achieving greatness essentially requires one to go through extreme periods of difficulties, maybe a lot of them. I have even considered it may be necessary to go through all of these challenges to reach ones true potential.
I am going to digress a little bit here as I write this in a local establishment with a local singer who starts his set with Wish Upon a Star….
“If your heart is in your dream
No request is too extreme
When you wish upon a star
As dreamers do
Fate is kind”
Made me giggle a little out loud as I was thinking if only it were that easy for us to reach our goals….a wish upon a star. Ha! Anyway -
But on the note of goals and owning our now. One thing I began to really think about is if the main reason for setting goals is to simply achieve them or if the thing about goals is that they help us identify a trajectory for moving through the world. A trajectory that sets us on a path to interact with certain types people and to set up our lives in a certain type of way.
So with this in mind, set a goal but loosen the grip on it. Holding onto it a little less tightly does not make you less likely to achieve it. If you view your goal with a trajectory or path or journey driven approach you’ll find more peace in the process and more perceptibility when things go a little heywire. Not to mention you’ll experience much more life along the way.
“Aim for the sky, but move slowly, enjoying every step along the way. It is all those little steps that make the journey complete.”